Have you ever compared yourself to someone else? I am sure you did. At some point, we all compare ourselves to others, we live in a society. You think like: I wish I would as self-confident as that guy/girl, so I could achieve more.
That’s true. Low self-esteem is a big obstacle to achieving your dreams. More than that it is the reason why our dreams get smaller and less crazy (That’s sad).
Low self-confidence might poison your professional life, social relations, and even your health physical or mental. This is not something that bothers only young people. At some time almost everybody feels the need to increase their self-esteem.
All people who work on increasing their self-confidence level do it in a different way. I’ve found and made a list of the most popular of them that really helped people, so you don’t have to search all over the Google to find them one by one on different websites.
#1 The first most popular way to increase your self-esteem is to fake it. Yes, you read it right. If you don’t have it, fake it! Fake it until you actually feel it.
How to do it? It is about little things: your posture, your gestures, your voice. Stand straight, keep your head up and shoulders down. Control your gestures: using too much or none is not something that a self-confident person looks like. Speak with a calm voice and pace.
People say, in order to adopt a habit, you should keep doing it for at least three weeks. Well, even if it won’t help, you will definitely look more attractive.
#2 Another great way to increase your self-confidence is to stop comparing yourself to other people.
I think I don’t need to remind you that everybody is unique and comparing yourself to each other is not a productive way to spend your energy. Yes, we know that and we heard it a thousand times, but for no reason, we continue measuring our success with the success of other people.
Instead of wasting your time for a clearly useless activity, compare yourself to YOURSELF. How can you-tomorrow become better than you-yesterday? Maybe with a higher self-confidence?
#3. Don’t care what other people think. This is obvious. You feel shy because you are afraid to be judged by people around you.
Guess what? No one cares.
I have found a very interesting interpretation of this rule. It says, don’t feel yourself too important for the universe. Well, that sounds weird to me too. But if you think deeper, it is not so bad advice.
Low self-esteem appears when you think, that you “don’t fit” somewhere, or you are “not good enough” for something. As if, there is something out there more important than you to yourself. Thinking, that you are not so important for the universe takes off the stress of not “fitting”.
#4. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Pay attention how you talk to yourself during the day. Are you too harsh? Blaming yourself for every small mistake will not help you to be better next time, but will definitely lower your self-confidence.
Treat yourself as you would treat the most precious person of yours. Be kind and understanding. Use positive affirmations.
#5. Accept yourself. People generally evaluate themselves as if they are on a school test. If I did good, then I deserved a treat, if I did bad, then I have nothing to be proud of. That’s all wrong.
You and I, see only black and white when we put boundaries like that. But the world is full of other colors! Put higher aims but don’t forget to support yourself.
#6. Many people say that sport has helped them to increase their self-esteem. And I agree with them. Workout.
The thing is, regular workouts will increase your discipline and motivation. I don’t think that a motivated person can suffer from the lack of self-esteem. More than that, regular sports will make you look better, feel better, and improve your health. And it is already something to be proud of.
#7. Find for what you can be respected and respect yourself for that. It can be anything. You may not be a good swimmer, but you might be great at cooking tarts.
Everybody can be proud of himself for some reason. Find yours and think about it every time when you feel not confident. If you could once achieve something, then you can do it again.
#8. When we feel the lack of confidence we prefer to stay away from an active social or professional life. This is how you miss new opportunities. Throw yourself a challenge and get out of your comfort zone.
This sounds crazy, but it really works and it helped a lot of people. For example, going to the dance class will help you feel more confident about your body. Taking part in a stand-up performance is a real challenge. Sometimes, getting out of your comfort zone means changing your style.
Go for it! Find your fear, accept it, and start working on it.
#9. Being self-confident does not only mean to know your strong sides but also weaknesses. You can’t be perfect in everything. Understand that and don’t blame yourself for it. Instead, learn to laugh at yourself.
Being ironic to your own mistakes will save you from a depression.
#10. Be patient. Building your own self-confidence is a long process. You will not suddenly wake up and realize how different you are today. No. Unfortunately, in order to achieve it, you and I should keep working. Step by step, adopting new rules and new lifestyle will eventually make you believe in yourself.
There are many different ways to feel more confident. You can be training yourself to fake it, you can start working on it from the inside or go into sports. You can choose whatever is the most attractive to you. The only thing is that it will take time before you will start actually thinking in a different way about yourself.
The faster you start the better the result will be. Believe in yourself.
Do you know any other way to increase your self-confidence? How well did it help you?